Confessions Of A New Father

There is a certain risk to disclosing cathartic ramblings.  Some thoughts are better left unwritten.  Yet there appears to be a certain hole in fatherhood literature, an absence for which I was not prepared.  These notes are about this silence, the part of fatherhood they don’t often share.

This is my fatherhood confession.

I write with spit-up stains still fresh on my shirt, and a hint of dirty diaper scent still lingering in the air, which, admittedly, is helping to keep me…


The Separation Of Church And Anyone Who Doesn’t Have It All Together

Yes you, church group standing in front of Planned Parenthood, on the steps of your state capitol, with your signs boldly declaring “ABORTION IS MURDER.”  Did you ever consider you might be doing more harm than good?  When you get back to your “Fellowship Hall,” eat your potluck dinner and pat each other on the back, is it possible you’ll actually have hindered God’s mission, not moved it forward?

I think what Christians need to fear more than the separation of…


Why I Stopped Praying

If you catch a Christian in a moment of vulnerability (which is hard to come by these days), I think you’d find we struggle with prayer.  Ask us about our “prayer lives,” and the majority of us will confess to not praying nearly enough.

Oh sure we still pray from time to time.  But I confess many times it’s more due to our belief in a Christian karma than anything else.  We thank God for our “blessings” – salary, health, suburban…


On Becoming A Dad

It is by the grace of God that it takes nine months to grow a baby, because it gives you plenty of time to think.  Of course you don’t get all the nine months for clear-headed consideration. After taking away the initial two month “this is really happening” freak-out, and the late reprise of these same emotions, it leaves a solid five or six months in the center to participate in some deep searching about what it means to become…


Day 163: Marriage Is Risky Business

Being married isn’t easy.  Which is rather confusing considering that most married folks try to convince and contrive ways for non-married compatriots to join their ranks.  A little counter-intuitive, no?

Being married isn’t that bad, you say.  Well consider this.  When God gave Satan permission to do just about everything to Job except take his life,

Satan chose to keep his wife alive.

Did you ever think…


God’s Not Dead – But He Is A Little Awkward

Took my wife on a date night to see the new ‘God’s Not Dead’ movie last night.  It was rather a spur of the moment decision, thanks in part to my personal struggles with initiation and in-decisiveness.  Though we didn’t have many expectations, ironically enough the movie was just about exactly what I did expect, and now I’m starting to realize why.

Christian-themed movies have long been blasted for their sub-par acting, writing, and nails-on-the-chalkboard cheesiness.  And at times, I must…


Don’t Worry, No One Saw You Become A Christian

“Everyone’s head bowed, eyes closed, no one looking around…if you prayed that prayer a moment ago…”

Hold it right there.  At what point did becoming a Christian become a head down, eyes closed type of decision?  Exactly what type of Christian culture are we fostering?

I guess I wouldn’t be so concerned by this if the Bible didn’t contain some disturbing passages:

“Whoever acknowledges me before others, I will also acknowledge before my Father in heaven. But whoever disowns me before others, I…


Day 162: What I Meant Was…

Folks don’t like to split hairs over semantics.   How often have we been “arguing” with a friend only to find out our differences were merely semantic, and finally understanding we actually were in agreement?  Semantics in many ways have separated relationships, churches, and political parties who otherwise would have agreed.

But other times semantics are important, because in many ways the words we chose, and…

Thought For The Day (Will Smith)

“The keys to life are running and reading. When you’re running, there’s a little person that talks to you and says, “Oh I’m tired. My lung’s about to pop. I’m so hurt. There’s no way I can possibly continue.” You want to quit. If you learn how to defeat that person when you’re running. You will how to not quit when things get hard in your life. For reading: there have been gazillions of people that have lived before all…


God Doesn’t Need You

How do we know we’re right where God’s called us?  What does it look or feel like?  Is it something like this?

“When I visited, it was just – such a God thing.  I mean, everything was perfect, they’re looking for someone who has my exact skill set, and we seemed to really hit it off.  I just knew this is where God wanted me.”

So often we look for where we seem to…